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First, let’s clear up some misconceptions about elegance.
- It has nothing to do with money.
- It has nothing to do with style.
- It has nothing to do with occupation.
Elegance is a state of mind. Some would rephrase and say mindset. A farmer can be elegant. A wanna- be vegan hipster can be elegant. A woman who plays for the WNBA can be elegant. You, my friend, can be elegant.
Now that we cleared that up, let’s talk about how to cultivate an elegant mindset.
1. REMOVING TOXICITY
An elegant mind is a decluttered mind. A woman who is described as elegant has no time for garbage in her mind, her heart, or her home.
I. Remove people who make you feel: unworthy, unhappy, depressed or fat lol (jk on the last one) When I say remove I mean, if that person energy is totally disposable (AKA not family) then go ahead and do so. If that person is someone you need to deal with then do so for a very short and limited amount of time. Your emotions matter more than others’ convenience.
II. Stop Gossiping. A wise woman once told me, ” A gossiper and an uneducated woman are usually synonymous. ” Seriously, what is it with women and gossiping? You know what that tells others about you? You’re bored, uneducated and sad. Rise up! Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. Notice it says others. Venting of your own personal situations to someone you love and trust is not gossip, although some would say so.
2. Fall in love with yourself
I. Confidence. There is nothing more elegant and sexy than confidence. An elegant woman knows who she is. She also feels good in her skin and with that air of confidence she inspires other women to be like such. Elegant women do not compare themselves to other women, they do not voice their complaints about themselves ( because they barely have any) and they do not mind spending time alone because when you are your own best friend, you are your best company.
II. Prioritizing. Falling in love with yourself is actually the most selfless thing you can do for the people around you because when you love yourself you “pour into your cup first, so you can fill up everyone around you.” What I mean by that is, you take time for your physical and mental self so you can be the best version of yourself for your family, your husband, your friends, your business, etc. Women who try to do everything for everyone and do nothing for themselves are usually complaining, haggard and often feel drained… which 9/10 times leads to making everyone around them unhappy too.
Embrace “La Dolce Vita” ambience and bring it into your daily life. Each and every single day you should indulge in the delicious pleasures of life. I am not saying eat tiramisu or sip baileys… I’m saying, take a long stroll with your husband, make Prosecco grapes, have a friend over for bouji cheese, write a poem about yourself, plan your next getaway! Whatever it is that you might enjoy, just find one thing, everyday, forever. Some might take an evening, others might take 5 min, all worth it. When you learn to love the life you create, you never need an escape from it. (Hmm.. where have I heard that before? )
I challenge you to try one of these steps to an elegant mind. The personal messages I get after you ladies read my posts make my day. Please feel free to message me telling me how you’ve taken any of these steps !